Sei kusurukirwa kwakanaka kune utano: zvikonzero zvishanu

Kune chivimbo munharaunda yedu kuti vanhu vakasurukirwa vanonzwa sevasina kufara vakadzingwa. Asi nyanzvi yezvepfungwa kubva kuYunivhesiti yeKalifornia muSanta Barbara, Bella Depaulo, haabvumi zvakadzama neshoko iri. Pamusoro pehupenyu hwake hwose (uye zvino Bella 63), haana kumbonzwa asina kufara, pasinei nokuti haana kumbobvira akaroora uye asina vana. Makore anopfuura gumi, nyanzvi yakadzidza nezvekubatsira kwepfungwa uye kwepanyama kusurukirwa. Munguva iyi, Dr. Depaulo akakwanisa kuongororisa zvigumisiro zveongororo dzinodarika mazana masere ezvesayenzi panyaya iyi. Tinodzidza kuti nei kusurukirwa kwakanaka kuvanhu.

Pane imwe nzvimbo yakawanda yehuwandu hwevanhu

Vanhu vazhinji vanofunga nenzira isina kururama kuti vakaroorana vane shamwari dzakawanda kupfuura vanhu vasina kuroora. Zvisinei, zvichibva pane nhamba ye data, imwe branccan social network ine bhakoro. Izvi zvakatorwa muna 2015 nevatsigiri vezvemagariro evanhu Natalia Sarkisian naNaomi Gerstel, vakaona kusiyana kwekukurukurirana pakati pevakuru vekuAmerica vasina kuroorwa uye vagari varoora. Somugumisiro, zvakawanikwa kuti zvisingatauri zvinowanzokurukurirana neshamwari dzavo, hama, vavakidzani uye vanozivana chete. Vanokurumidza kupa rubatsiro rungabvira kune nhengo dzevakawanda vavo dzekugara.

Kune rumwe rutivi, kana munhu ari oga ane matambudziko, vanhu vaakambomubatsira kare vanoita danho rekudzoka munzira yake. Mune mamwe mazwi, kusurukirwa kunenge kune pfungwa yakasimba yeheta, iyo inobatsira kurarama mumamiriro ezvinhu akaoma. Zvinoshuva kuti kusurukirwa kunowedzera huwandu hwehukama hwemagariro ose muvarume nevakadzi, pasinei nemari yekuwana mari kana tsika.

Kushushikana Kwechimiro Chekunyama

Muchirevo ichi pane humwe huwandu hwezvokwadi: vazhinji vakaroorana, vanyoresa ukama hwehukama, "vanodzikama" uye vanorega kuzviona. Kunyanya kana zvasvika pakuenda kumitambo, iko kushanda kwakakosha, kunosimbisa hutano, ndiko kumagumo kwezveru yezvinhu zvinokosha. Apo masayendisiti akadzidza tsika dzevanhu vanopfuura 13 000 varume nevakadzi pakati pezera remakore 18 ne64, vatsvakurudzi vakawana kuti mabhakhesi anoshandisa maawa akawanda pavhiki mukirasi paimba yekurovedza. Chimwe chidzidzo chinonakidza chakaitwa muna 2015 muEurope. Apo masayendisiti akafananidza huwandu hwehuwandu hwevanhu zviuru zvina mazana mashanu kubva kuve mapfumbamwe eEurope, zvakazoitika kuti kusurukirwa, pavhareji, kwaive 2.27 kilograms chiedza kupfuura avo vakaroorana vakapindura.

Kuvandudza unhu

Kuongororwa kwemashoko ekuongororwa kwenyika kwemhuri nemhuri kwakaratidza kuti munhu ari oga anoita kuti kukura kwake kuwedzere. Pakati pevamwe, vakapindura vakasarudza mazwi anotevera:

• Upenyu kwandiri ndeyekuenderera mberi kwekudzidza, kuchinja nekukura kwebasa.
• Zvakakosha kugara uine maonero matsva anondiomera, ndine mukana wekushandura maonero angu uye nyika yakandikomberedza.

Zvinyorwa zvakabvumirana nemashoko aya, apo vanhu vakaroorana vaidzivisa.

Mushure mekuroora, vanhu vanova vasina rupo

Imwe tsvakurudzo yevamiririri yenyika yakaitwa muAmerica mune zvikamu zviviri: kutanga munguva kubva muna 1987 kusvika muna 1988, uyezve zvakare mumakore mashanu. Bella Depaulo akaongorora zvakawanikwa uye akawana kuti vakaroorana vanenge vasikana vakanga vasingakwanisi kubhadhara mari kune shamwari kudarika avo vakanga vasati vaparadzana norusununguko. Cherechedza kuti izvi zvitsva zvinoshanda chete kuvanhu. Saka, musvondo wega oga aneAmerica anotengesa shamwari neshamwari $ 1,875 kupfuura murume akaroorwa. Asi zvakakosha kuti murume arambe, kuti rupo rwake runokura sei zvakare kusvika kumatengo apfuura (ne1275 dollars).

Nyanzvi yacho inoti: "Pasinei nokuti ivo vakaroorana vane vakaroorana vane mamiriyoni ezvokuwana mari, izvi hazvibatsiri rupo rwavo nenzira ipi zvayo. Pane zvakasiyana, vanhu vakaroorana havakwanisi kugovana hukama hwavo neshamwari neshamwari. Izvo zvisingagoni kutaurwa nezvevanosurukirwa avo vanoda kwazvo kupa mari, vachiva nemugove mumwe chete wemari. "

Batsiro reMental Health

Psychotherapist Emmy Morin anotaura kuti kusurukirwa kune zvikomborero zvakawanda zvehutano hwepfungwa. Ichakubatsirawo iwe kuva munhu anogadzira uye anogadzira. Iwe une nguva yakawanda yakawanda, yaunogona kushandisa iwe pachako. Sezvo chiito chakaratidza, vanhu vakawanda vanopa nguva ino kudzidzira ivo zviri nani. Izvi zvakawanikwa zvinotsigira kuonekwa kwevamwe vanoongorora nezvepfungwa avo vanobatanidza kusurukirwa nechinangwa chekusununguko, kufamba, kukurudzira. Somuenzaniso, vanyori vanowanzotora basa kuti vagadzire yavo inotevera.