Sei kurarama chidhakwa?

Sei kurarama chidhakwa? Sezvo michina doro mamiriyoni vakadzi nokuzvibvunza mubvunzo, asi iye kazhinji yakaramba isina kupindurwa. Uye unogona sei kudana upenyu vari boka ane rwakakwana munhu, ane mutemo mumwe chete - kudhaka? In zvepfungwa pane yokuti "codependent" - munhu kugara chidhakwa, uyo anofunga nehama dzake, achitaura naye norudo uye kuedza kunzwisisa. mudzimai Codependent anogona nguva dzose kutsanangura pachangu raitevera spree murume vakaneta, zvakaoma zuva, matambudziko kubasa, kana, Ukuwo, pazororo, mufaro ...

Asingazivi, vanhu ava havana kushanda pamusoro chirwere, uye panguva yake. Chido chavo chomwoyo wose kubvisa pedyo kutambura uye kumubatsira kudzokera mugwara chete exacerbates dambudziko. Ndeipi zvaanoda munhu kurega kupindwa muropa kwavo, kutsungirira kusagadzikana, kuti miitiro, kana nguva dzose mumwe pedyo uyo mukangamwire, kunzwisisa uye zvinetso zvose?

Kuti tipindure mubvunzo, sei kurarama chidhakwa, unofanira kunzwisisa kana uchida kuita kuti tirarame pamwe naye. Kana mhuri ine vana vanokanganiswa rarehwa baba vake, zvichida yakanakisisa yokugadzirisa vaizove pokusiyana nomunhu akadaro. Chero zvazvingava, mumwe ezvinhu nomumwe, uye chete vechikamu kusarudza - kuva pamwe chete kana kunze. Kana kushandiswa pamwechete, saka pane mamwe matanho kuti anogona kubatsira kushandura mamiriro ezvinhu.

Danho 1: kurega Codependency. Unofanira kunzwisisa chii hanya yenyu uye kukanganwirwa kunobatsira hapana. Chokwadi, dzimwe nguva zvakanaka kugara munhu akuvara, kutaura "muchinjikwa wake" kuti uri muupenyu, asi kana basa iri rakanga chaizvoizvo mubvunzo wenyu, sei kugara naye murume chidhakwa, asingadi simuka - aizorarama chii upenyu kwakafanana.

Danho 2: Tsvaka vaindinyaradza kunze kwemhuri. Unofanira kuva midzi (shamwari, hama), avo rutsigiro achaenda kuburikidza matambudziko hondo rokuraradza nemumwe yakati. The chinokosha chichabatsira vanhu vane pachake kubudirira ruzivo kukunda dambudziko iri. Kana zvichibvira, famba pamusoro boka ndedzekubatsira co-paanofa.

Step 3: Isai shamwari ezvinhu. Kana uchinyatsoda akasarudza kuchinja upenyu hwangu, vakamirira chinhu, zvinokosha kutanga miniti ichi. Isai murume kuti kana anofanira mhuri, anofanira kutanga pakarepo kurapwa, nokuti kugara chidhakwa, iwe hauchafambi kuronga. Kana vanhu havatsvaki rubatsiro kana asingadi kuramba kubva kunwa pachako ipapo kutyisidzira kwayo kunofanira kuita - ingondisiyai.

Danho 4: Funga zvaunogona kuita. Pamwe chete nomurume wake kugadzirira akawanda aunogona - apo kuenda kana ani kuti rubatsiro.

Danho 5: uderedze mutoro imwe basa. Haugoni kurarama upenyu mumwe munhu. Iye chete ndiye anotonga kusarudza: mhuri kana doro. Uye chisarudzo ichi hapana simba asingagoni. Kana munhu akasarudza ekupedzisira - wako haana mhosva.

Danho 6: kunzwisisa pachako. Kana uri ukama, Saka, vamwe chikonzero, ivo hunozodiwa. Mukuziva kana mukusaziva, uri mutero kwavari zvimwe zvinobatsira pachavo. Zvichida muchato simba, zvaanoda munhu, anoita kuti unzwe simba, zvikuru kubudirira, vaine. Kana ichi chiri chokwadi, funga chii dzimwe nzira anogona kuzadzisa zvakafanana manzwiro uye kusimudza dzavo nokuzviremekedza. Zvichida tinofanira kuchinja mabasa kana kuti kudzidza chimwe chinhu chitsva?

Mabatirwo chidhakwa? Chokutanga, nzwisisa kuti kurwa hazvifaniri kuitika kune mumwe murume, uye chirwere. Uye mukuru murwi mairi zvinofanira kuva pachake kuzvimiririra. Mira kudivi mudikamwa wake, uyo akasarudza kuchinja upenyu hwavo, kuramba chiri chisarudzo, musarega kuzeza uye tipei usimbe, uye ipapo mubvunzo sei kugara chidhakwa, usambofa simuka mumhuri yenyu.