Non-kutukana nemasaini uye dzavo nezvaanoreva

Dzimwe nguva mashoko vanhu regai kunowirirana zvavanotenda vechokwadi uye nevavariro. Kuti tinzwisise zviri chaizvoizvo kufunga mudiwa wako chichakubatsira non-kutaura nemasaini. Iva zvishoma kunyatsoteerera paanenge zvepabonde. Izvi zvichaita kuti imi kuwana zvakawanda mashoko kupfuura ndinoda kupfuura imwe anokumhan'arira.

Ichokwadi ichi?

Vanhu vakawanda havana chokwadi chakadaro nyaya sezvo vasiri kutaura nokukurukurirana. Nemasaini, chiso chedu vanoonekwa sechinhu dzinongoitika uye mechanically. Asi chakapiwa chokwadi ichi, tinogona kutaura non-kutukana mashandiro kuti zvinhu sezvazviri. Vanachiremba wakapedzera yakawanda basa yesayenzi nyaya. Asi kana vamwe vanonamata uye ichi hachisi nharo, vakayambusa yakazvimirira pakuongorora zvakakwana. Somuenzaniso, kudzidza decipher pfungwa uye manzwiro avo vadiwa, uye gare gare uchakwanisa kuona kuburikidza nevokunze.

Ichokwadi, hatifaniri kukanganwa kuti pane kunze kune mutemo. Saka, munhu anogona kutora ichi kana kuti chinzvimbo nokungoita ajaira. Uyezve, zvinoita kuti akanga asiri kunzwa zvakanaka kana kuti dzamira nguo. Human maitiro anogona kuchikosha zvazvinoita tembiricha. Saka, hatifaniri kurerutsa basa dzisiri kutaura nokukurukurirana. Zvisinei, asati aita yokupedzisira kumhedziso, zvinokosha Kunyatsotarisisa mamiriro ezvinhu umo kukurukura kunoitika.

Chii ita maoko muhomwe ake

Kazhinji, unogona kuonekwa somunhu panguva kukurukura ake maoko muhomwe yake. Munhu anofunga ichi chinoratidza tsika dzakaipa. Uyewo, usaramba mukana kuti munhu zvokutanga muchando, apo ari kusununguka tembiricha ezvinhu. Zvisinei, kana tiri funga asiri kutaura mutauro muviri, unogona kusvika zvinotevera mhedziso:

• Hands yakavanzwa muhomwe yake, aigona kuratidza pfungwa zvikuru. Munhu ari munzvimbo iyi inogona kuva chinhu kufungisisa kana kuvaka hwezvekuita. Zvisinei, iye angava zvishoma shanyarika kana rwakapetwa kubva chitsitsinho kusvikira toe.
• Chimwe inopangidza pamusoro wevaFiripi ichi - ndiwo kubhoekana. Somuenzaniso, musi misangano refu kana kuungana kwevanhu enyika kakawanda vanofamba, maoko ake ari muhomwe yake, nekuti haugoni kusiya chiitiko, asi hapana chinonakidza zvichiitika pairi. Saka, kana mumwe wako atora yakafanana chinzvimbo, ungada agumise chikumbiro kana kushandisa nayo kuti zvinonakidza njanji.
• Kana maoko vari muhomwe yake kuviga muteereri uye mutauri, izvozvo zvingaratidza vemwoyo wose ake. Kazhinji, ndiye ruoko kupa nhema, asi nokuti vanhu anongozvarwa munovavanza saka iwe urege wafungidzira vavariro dzake.
• Nerumwe maoko muhomwe chingataurwa pamusoro pusa mafungire interlocutor yenyu. Iye ingangova vasingafariri kana vasingadi kuita muchamuudzei. Asi mugumisiro wacho, Chokwadi, ruchabudirira mwero kwako simba.
• Kana isu funga non-kutukana zviito varume, muchiwadzana pavasikana maoko yakavanzwa ake trouser muhomwe (chete bhurukwa!) Kutaura likes uye libido. Asi kana kubata nhengo yavo pabonde, saka vanoratidza simba uye rusununguko.

Kuratidza kunaka

Kuziva nezvaunomuitira zviratidzo, unogona husava zvikuru upenyu hwako, nokuti inogona kushandiswa kunzwisisa zvinovavarirwa interlocutor wechokwadi uye kuti dzinoshanda kwauri. Somuenzaniso, kana mumwe munhu ari kuedza kuratidza chivimbo, uyewo ukuru uye simba pamusoro penyu, rinogona kunzwisiswa nevanhu anotevera zvimwe:

• Murume akaisa maoko ake shure kwake, puffing akabuda chipfuva chake mberi. Saka, anoedza kuratidza ushingi hwake.
• Maoko zvachero kwakadonha kupinda muhomwe, uye muviri dzinonyatsotiratidza vagadzikana. Saka munhu ari kuedza kuratidza kuti une hanya naye, uye uninteresting.
• Dzimwe nguva okumanikidza munhu anogona kutora kuzvidzivirira pezvaaitsigira, maoko ake vakayambuka pachipfuva chake uye kudhonza ari thumb. Izvi zvinoreva kuti kunyange anoedza azvidzivirire, asi anonzwa ukuru pamusoro penyu.

tactile kudyidzana

Uchifunga dzisiri kutukana zviratidzo, achizoripa ngwariro chaiyo tactile kusakarongeka pamwe interlocutor. Saka, tinogona kutaura pamusoro zvinotevera:

• Kana musangano neshamwari kana hama iwe, zvave pfupi kuonana vanofanira hapana kupfuura mutero undere.
• Mbundira zvinoreva kuti vanhu vave kufinhikana uye akafara chaizvo kukuonai. Zvisinei, kana dzokupisa yakasimba zvakare, uye imi muri chaizvoizvo kudzipwa pamusoro payo, ingangodaro munhu chete kuedza kuona iwe.
• Kana, panguva kuvambundira munhu anobata iwe mwoyo uye iwe wakasununguka, rinotaura pamusoro pamusoro pako.
• Kana ukasangana munhu kuvhura ruoko rwake kuti kugwinha maoko, rinotaura kwerudo rwake kukuvimba.
• Kana, panguva kugwinha maoko murume haasi kutorwa kuti ruoko, uye pedyo chiningoningo, rinotaura ake fungidzira mafungiro. Rakanga saka mumazuva hweRoma akanga achiongorora kana imomo mugomba shamwari nemapanga.
• Kana munhu rinodederesa ruoko rwako zvakasimba zvikorekedzo kana maoko maviri, vachidzungudza nesimba (zvichida achiita iwe kusanzwa), izvozvo chete zvinoratidza ake nomufaro nomwoyo wose pavakasangana iwe.
• Kana, panguva kugwinha maoko unofunga kuti ruoko rwako interlocutor usimbe, inobereka nhaurirano zvikasashanda, nekuti haisi configured kutaura nemi.
• Kana munhu anotora ruoko rwake , nemichindwe pasi, pamusoro subconscious sandara, iye ruchigona kudzora iwe.
• Pat seri ndiko mafungiro ushamwari. Uyezve, chiratidzo ichi chinoratidza simba pamusoro interlocutor uye chido chake kubatsira.
• Ngwarira vanhu pavaitaura kubata iwe ruoko. Your kunzwa kusavimbana, ivo saizvozvo vanoedza kutsvaka imi naye, uye kunyange edza kureva kuti kunogona shamwari yako rakavimbika. Asi chiratidzo ichi hachisi nguva dzose wose, nekuti mupfungwa mitoo yakadai inowanzoshandiswa nevanhu vane vavariro dzoudyire.

Sei kuziva tsitsi

Chimwe chikuru zvinetso ukama pakati pakatarisana Vanhurume nevanhukadzi - kusavimba ichi. Dzimwe nguva zvakawanda kupfuura mashoko anogona kuudza non-kutaura nokukurukurirana. Nemasaini kuti zvinoratidza tsitsi, zvinotevera:

• Gleam mumeso ake - haasi ngano. Munhu kuona tsitsi, zvirokwazvo, anotarira zvishoma yakasiyana, uye cornea hunowedzera hydrated. Uyezve, vadzidzi chichange zvishoma kuwedzerwa.
• Vada vanhu pamusoro subconscious sandara, kuedza kufadza. Saka, pamusangano, anoita manipulations siyana nezvechitarisiko chavo: aligns necheshure, kuminyuka mudumbu, agadzirisa vhudzi.
• Vose varume nevakadzi vari kuedza nezvesimba kwokunze zvepabonde unhu. Izvi zvinogona kuisa minwe pamusoro bhandi mutirauzi, paupamhi-yakatarwa makumbo, unbuttoned pamusoro bhatani kuti hembe yake.
• Active kasina (dzimwe nguva kukodzera) rinogonawo kushumira sechiratidzo tsitsi. Chokwadi chokuti munhu murudo kazhinji vanorasikirwa kudzora zviito zvavo.
• Kuongorora zvinovavarirwa interlocutor anogona kuva akananga kwake anopenya. Kana rakanga rakatarira munzvimbo pameso, pane chikonzero chokudavira kuti anofarira uve munhu. Zvino tarira, kumhanya kumativi mumuviri, haasi kutaura zvinopfuura chido chokurara.
• Kana munhu wechirume tichingotarisira kuedza pedyo, kana pasi chero chokumupomera, kukubata, hapana mubvunzo netsitsi dzake.

disinterest

Dzimwe nguva munhu mberi nyaya, asingazivi kuti mumwe webato iri zvachose uninteresting. Uyai kubatsira dzisiri kutaura nokukurukurirana. Nemasaini kuratidza kusava nehanya, ndeinotevera:

• Kana mumwe munhu ayambuka ake, iye nomuzvarirwo anovhara pamusoro pako. You hanya naye kana, kana hachifadzi.
• Ona apo pfungwa interlocutor akatuma. Kana Paanotarisa kwese, asi kwete chiso chako, zvinokosha kupedza nhaurirano.
• Kana munhu achida kumisa nyaya uende, zvichava kupa kugara Anodongorera panguva wachi yake. Uyewo vanopfeka bhutsu yake inogona kuendeswa kunzvimbo pamukova.

chiso zvinhu

Zvakawanda zvinogona kutaurwa pamusoro murume uye manzwiro ake kuna ake chiso chedu. Non-kutukana zviratidzo, akaratidza pachiso, anogona kutaura pamusoro zvinotevera:

• kujekesa meso uye pursed miromo vanotaura nehasha kumunetsawo;
• vanomutswa nevagari vayo uye maziso hwayo anoreva kushamisika;
• vachingotya kutya miromo rwakatambanudzwa paupamhi, uye makona avo chichiburutswa;
• mufaro kunoratidzwa wakadzikama anopenya uye zvishoma akamutsa makona muromo wake;
• Zvinosuruvarisa murume anounza ake nevagari vayo pamwe uye pasi makona kwemiromo.

inzwi

The chikuru nzira achitumira mashoko - cheshoko. Nezvaunomuitira kasina vanogona kuratidza kuti interviewee ari kuedza kuvanza. No zvishoma zvakwo kunogona matauriro kuti anogona kukuudza pamusoro zvinotevera:

• kutsanya uye dzisingapindirani nawo hushed pasi anoratidza kukuru mafaro;
• nechivimbo uye ruzha kurukurirano rinopupurira basa kufarira;
• kana munhu anoti usimbe, achideredza mataurire kuguma okuti, ndiko kunonetsa;
• akayera uye kunonoka kutaura, izvo dzinoratidzwa kugara matauriro, uchapupu kwokuzvikudza interlocutor;
• zvachose Kumbomira pakutaura, masanga zvikanganiso anoratidza kutya uye kusava chivimbo.

zviratidzo zvenhema

Achiziva kukosha non-kutukana nemasaini kuti anogona kuona nhema interlocutors. Saka, kuteerera pfungwa dzinotevera:

• mazhinji nguva kutanga mutsara kana kumbomira;
• asymmetry ari tsandanyama dzechiso;
• masekondi anopfuura 10 haisi kuchatsiviwa chako okuti;
• manzwiro simuka kunopera uye haina kuwirirana zviri kutaura;
• akatambanudza kunyemwerera usingabereki kusika curved uye nhete mutsetse zvemiromo;
• nokushaiwa mumaziso;
• kutyora maoko nemakumbo (tapping, twitching) uye miromo zakusyvanie;
• Edza kuramba gesticulations dzaserera;
• rinorema kufema uye kuramba kuvandudzika pakati inzwi;
• Closed vavatore pamwe vayambuka maoko namakumbo, akatsivama shure;
• vachidzipukuta yepamhino kana remakore (inogona kuva afterthought uye haawanzotauri oneka);
• divi zvakanaka (maererano mutauro muviri) zvikuru kushingaira kupfuura kuruboshwe;
• kuwedzeredzwa manzwiro uye nemasaini;
• kakawanda achibwaira.

mufambo

Uchifunga non-kutukana pachishandiswa nemasaini, hatigoni kutaura pamusoro nhangemutange, rinoitwa nevanhu mune mamwe mamiriro ezvinhu. Saka, vakawanda vaibvuma zvinotevera parameters vanoonekwa:

• kusvika hafu mita - ndiye yepedyo kure pakati vadiwa vari muukama kuvimbika;
• kubva 0.5 kusvika 1.5 mamita - nokuti ichi kure crony interpersonal kutaurirana;
• 1.5-3.5 M - evanhu daro kuti vakasununguka yokukurukura pakati vaeni, uyewo dzebhizimisi;
• 3.7 mamita - iri kure paruzhinji umo chokupika akasungwa pamberi pevateereri vakanga vakawanda.

Kubatsira kuziva nomumwe

Max Egger ane kubatsira chaizvo kuti zvidzidzo zviri mubvunzo uyu, senzira asiri kutaura nemasaini. Akatanga gadziriro 75 anonongedzera, chikuru ndivo ndedzinotevera:

• kwebasa chaAdhamu womuapuro anoratidza mufaro kana interlocutor kuti ari kutaura chokwadi;
• kana maoko neZvapupu chero chinhu, zvinonzi akati chokwadi;
• kana munhu stroking chirebvu chake, ari kufunga kuva chipo;
• zakusyvanie munwe, penzura kana temberi kunoreva kuti munhu imi inofungidzirwa;
• stroking seri mutsipa akatsamwa kana kunzwa kutyisidzirwa nemi;
• kana munhu rubs nezvanza, anotarisira kuti zvikomborero;
• masokisi kana tsoka voga mumaoko, munhu anonzwa vakuru kwamuri.

mhedziso

Kana uchida kuziva zvakawanda kupfuura zvaunotaura, zvinokosha kudzidza mutauro wemasaini. Non-nomuromo kukurukurirana nyore kuzvidzora, uye saka rinogona kunzi kupfuura chinangwa. Zvisinei, usambokanganwa kuti vamwe nemasaini anogona chokuita zvakanaka kana kwokunze simba.